hooking with your friend
  • | October 4, 2016
Here’s the thing. This is very rarely a good idea as it has the potential to cause a whole host of problems. First, we’re going to be discussing all of the ways that this can backfire and blow up in your face. Don’t worry, we’ll also cover what you should do if you are really adamant that this is a good idea.

Let’s look at the laundry list of problems that could occur from doing this.

The things you need to know:

  1. He’s Going to Find Out. First, think about how your friend is going to feel about this, especially if you “forget” to tell him. Even if you think it’s only a casual thing that he’ll never find out about, he will. And he’s not going to be very happy when he does. You might even get a fist in your face, even if you and your friend are close. There’s an unwritten code that you don’t do that kind of crap to one another.

  2. Is She Playing You? If the girl knows that the two of you are friends, then you have to wonder if she might be playing you against each other. People can be vindictive.

  3. You Really Like Her. Let’s say that things start to go well between the two of you, but you haven’t told your friend about it yet. You want to take a relationship with this girl to the next level because you really like her. When your friend finds out, the storm is going to hit. He’s probably not going to want to see you with her, even if the two of them are still on good terms. Honestly, it’s weird. If they aren’t on good terms, things are even more problematic. You would eventually have to choose between your friend and the girl, and that’s a terrible choice.

  4. What If You’re Set on the Idea? Is it possible? It is, but you have to be honest from the start. This means you need to talk to your friend about this, and you have to make sure that he’s okay with it. If not, then don’t do it unless you want to lose him as a friend. You also have to make sure that she’s really in it because she likes you and not because she wants to find a way to get back at him. The last thing you need is to have drama in your life.

So, the smart advice is just don’t do it. There is too much risk for complication that you don’t need. If you are determined though, just make sure you don’t hide anything. If you do, there is a very good chance that it is going to come back and haunt you for a long time to come.

Good luck.