For women, saying “I love you” can be a big step in a relationship. As men, let’s be honest, it tends to not be as big a deal of a deal. Still, it’s important that we treat the situation with the respect and care it deserves and with her feelings in mind. This can be an important turning point in your relationship. Try not to mess it up. So she said “I love you.” What to do next?
There are a lot of ways this can go down, guys. It’s important to remember that this is a person you care about and they obviously care about you too. Here are a few tips to consider when you’re hit with the “I love you” from your lady:
There are a lot of ways this can go down, guys. It’s important to remember that this is a person you care about and they obviously care about you too. Here are a few tips to consider when you’re hit with the “I love you” from your lady:
- First, don’t panic. For most women, saying “I love you” is less about what they’re saying and more about them giving a piece of emotion to you. What you choose to do with what emotion is important to her so treat it with respect.
- Be prepared for it. Odds are this isn’t coming out of the blue, right? This is someone you’ve been dating for a little while. You should have an idea that she feels strongly about you so the “I love you” part can’t be catching you completely off guard. Women can smell fear. Don’t fumble over your words or stutter to try and think of something to say.
- Do NOT say “thank you.” No matter how you feel towards her or what your instincts are, do not say “thank you.” This is a non-answer. It’s not no, it’s not yes, it’s a wishy washy way of acknowledging her without having to really respond. Don’t say this.
- Say it back. Seriously, say it. Unless you really do not feel the same and you’re planning on breaking things off, what’s the harm in saying it? If you’re at the point where she’s saying it, then odds are you’ve been dating for a little while and there are strong feelings on both sides. Is it love? Don’t examine it too hard. There is no way to test whether you really love someone or not, no sure signs, and no roadmaps. You feel strongly? Then say it back.
- Enjoy your relationship! Again, this is a woman you feel strongly about. The fact that the “I love you’s” are out there does not mean things have to change dramatically. They don’t. Relax, enjoy your relationship and don’t put pressure on yourself or your relationship to be magical or special. That’s not to say it won’t or can’t be those things, just don’t feel as though you have to continuously prove that you’re worthy of the “I love you.”
