get a new job
  • | October 5, 2016
Has your wife started hinting that she’s not thrilled about the job that you have? Maybe she’s not the type of woman that hints at things. Maybe she came right out and said that she thinks you should find a new line of work. Now, it’s natural to become a bit defensive when you hear something like this, and you might initially bristle when she tells you so. You might even get into an argument.

Here are the top things to do and think about when she’s asking you to get a new job:

  1. Make Sure You Communicate. However, it’s generally a better idea to talk about things first so you can get a better idea of why she feels that you should get a new job. It’s not usual because she is not trying to insult you or put you down. Most of the time, it’s because she has so much faith and belief in you that she knows you are capable of doing something more with your life. She wants you to be the best that you possibly can be, and that’s a good thing. Other times, she might worry about the job that you have.
    For example, if you are in a dangerous line of work, such as law enforcement, she doesn’t like worrying about you whenever you are on the job. It can be just as stressful for her as it is for you. After all, she loves you. So, ask her why she thinks you should get a new job. Perhaps she’s worried that you are in a line of work that isn’t stable or that doesn’t pay enough to cover the bills. While it might be your dream job, you have to remember that this is a very legitimate fear for a spouse. Try to see things from her perspective rather than your own. This doesn’t necessarily mean you have to give it up, but it might mean you need to make some types of changes.

  2. Evaluate Your Current Job, Your Finances, and Your Happiness. Take some time to evaluate the job that you have right now, and try to look at it from her point of view, as we mentioned. If she were in the same job, how would you feel about it. Are you not getting the recognition that you deserve at work? Are you in real danger on the job? Are you actually happy in the career, or are you merely complacent? If you feel that she’s right, then maybe it is time to start looking for a new career, and she may even be willing to help you find a better job.

  3. Staying in the Career You Love. However, if you are positive that you are in the right field, and you can’t imagine yourself doing anything else, you are going to have to sell her on the job and help her understand why it is so important to you. It might take some time, but by talking things over calmly, you can come to a resolution that makes both of you happy.

As long as you both communicate, you should be able to come to a resolution.

Good luck.